In October 1988, President Ronald Reagan Proclaimed October as National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. “When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn’t a word to describe them. [Source]
It doesn’t matter if that positive test is unexpected or hoped, wished and prayed for….. once you see them you expect that in 40 weeks give or take a few you will have a baby in your arms. You expect to go through 9 months of belly growing, constant peeing, belly kicks…
No one ever really prepares you for the moment that those pink lines become a thing of the past. Even though the statistics show its 1 in 4 women will suffer a loss, it seems to be a touchy, taboo subject still… which is sad. It makes it harder for us to talk about our loss. Our babies we never held.
I think one of the hardest things is when its an early loss and people say, well it wasn’t dia baby. OR you didn’t know gender… ect… i personally don’t think it matters about any of that. You were pregnant one moment, and not the next… its a pain that I would never wish on my worst enemy.
I don’t have much to write. I have shared my story about my miscarriage. I will however link some helpful sites below:
Project Bear This site allows you to send a bear [up to 2] to a mother who had lost her baby [babies]. I recieved one , and it it a simple little teddy bear that you can write on the tag the name of the baby, the date ect. You don’t have to pay for the bear either but you can leave a donation to help pay it forward. You can also click the link to donate to help the project keep going without getting a bear.
Christian Based Organization “M.E.N.D. is a Christian, non-profit organization that reaches out to families who have suffered the loss of a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth, or early infant death”
Pregnancy, Infant & Child Loss Hotline Call (1-800-944-4773) OR Text hello to 741741
Grief Hotline (1-800-445-4808)
Abortion Hotline (1-866-439-4353) OR Text HelpLine to 313131
My heart goes to all that have went through this. Miscarriage is hard, losing something you love is never easy. If you have lost a child, my dear momma, you are one strong woman. You live everyday with a broken heart and a missing piece of your life. For that, you… you are stronger than any super hero in the comics there ever will be.