As some may know, both my husband and I are Navy Veterans. My 5 years of service were filled with disappointment and frustration. I was shocked when I was faced with my upper chain of command being shitty and unhelpful in the worst situations.
Lets face it, I hear it all the time- but vets have benefits and free healthcare… well yes we do, kind of… but you also have no idea what we go through to get what we need and for some they never obtain even that.
I myself, am having a huge problem getting cleared to go to the obgyn to check on PCOS and talk about a hysterectomy. I need to have an ultrasound done to look at my insides but have been waiting a month for the VA to authorize it… something so simple yet it seemingly can’t get done.
Not to mention that my psychiatrist has canceled my appointment with her 3 times now. I need my medication switched and reevaluated. Now, I’m lucky I’m not suicidal because really, I’ve been trying to see her for 2 months now. These are some of the littlest problems in the system right now. But let’s look at the bigger issues.
Veterans need help. The system is broken. The VA and the clinics are under staffed. They don’t have enough nurses nor doctors to get patients scheduled in a timely manner, and frankly, training should be held on how to speak to combat veterans.
You never know what could trigger them. Many have seen more death than you can imagine. Many have killed, many have been shot at. Some have barely escaped death. PTSD is very much real. If you work at a VA center, then it is your job to assist a Veteran in anyway you can. Or at least find information to direct them to the person to help them.
○If you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide, contact the Veterans Crisis Line to receive free, confidential support and crisis intervention available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. Call 1-800-273-8255 and Press 1, text to 838255, or chat online at VeteransCrisisLine.net/Chat
Now, Active Duty: oh boy… they make you ashamed and belittle you if you need any type of help. No wonder half of us have drinking problems. Most people join the military at 18. Leave home for the first time, leaving everything they know behind. For a lot of people that is freaking scary! When I left Ohio, I no longer had a home to return to and that is just how it is for some.
Deployments, duty days, nothing about the military life is normal. Yes, some make it look easy. But its not. It strains family life, marriages, having kids.
I was extremely lucky to have my boys and be on shore duty, meaning I didn’t deploy. It was still tough have dury and watches and feeling like I missed out on a lot of life with them. But I can only imagine what I mom friends go through while deployed, they are superheros.
You have moms leaving their 1year olds, dads missing births… soldiers and sailors missing holidays, deaths and everything in between. It can wear you down mentally. It isn’t about being strong or weak. Its just hard… no matter what front you’re on and what face you put on everyday.
[ Souce link ] “The report also found that 541 service members were confirmed or believed to have died by suicide last year, up from 511 in 2017. Of those deaths, 325 took place among active-duty service members, while 81 were among members of the Reserves and 135 were among the National Guard.”
Signs of Suicidal Thoughts < Click the Link to check out the signs of potentially suicidal loved ones, coworkers, ect. You have no idea how much it means to have someone ask “hey, are you okay?” Or “hey, i know you’re down, can I bring some food over?” Sometimes the littlest gestures can save someone.
This is such a small amount of the ongoing issues. So many are blind to the truth, and what is really happening… I know there are so many issues out there in the world today. Believe me, my heart breaks for the planet and what our children are seeing in today’s society… but this is a part of my life and my family. Its my brothers and sisters a family I chose.
I hope to write more on this subject soon.
I hope to share more points of contact as well.
Right now, if you – or any one you know has a story they would like to share with me please email me! or click the contact drop down in the menu.
For everyday you live your life, 22 veterans have ended theirs.